Sorry that I have been a blog slacker these days - I am working on a schedule/pattern for posting more regularly!
One of the reasons that I have been so MIA is that there has been a explosion of babies in my area - and I feel compelled to visit and snuggle them all as much as I can! But this week has been a little over the top actually and it gave me something to blog about!
Yesterday I got a phone call just as I stepped out of the shower - it was my friend Stacey, who has a three month old baby girl. The voicemail message was concerning - Stacey said she was having pain on her right side and it was getting progressively worse. By the time I called her back, she was sounding more panicked. I reassured her that I would be there in 15 minutes, threw on clothes and headed over. By the time I arrived, Stacey had gotten ahold of her doctor and was told to take some medicine and wait an hour to see if the pain got better. Her husband was at work and was going to try to get home asap - but he takes the train to work and it would take a little while. I took the baby, got her to sleep and by about that time Stacey's cousin had arrived to help too. As the hour passed, Stacey's pain got worse and finally the doctor advised taking her to the hospital. I stayed with the baby, cousin to Stacey to the hospital, Husband met them there, Stacey's mom arrived an hour later to stay with the baby. In the end, Stacey is fine - minus some kidney stones - and the baby was an angel for all involved.
After that excitement yesterday, I was ready to spend some quiet time with my good friend Melody and her 2 week old baby boy today. We'd made the plan for me to come over in the afternoon to keep her company since her hubby went back to work today. I knew that Baby Boy had been giving her a run for her money since coming home last Monday - not sleeping, fussy eating, etc. But wasn't quite prepared when the tears started flowing when I asked her "How are things going?". She's tired, he is cranky, she feels guilty because she gets frustrated when he's wide awake from midnight to 5am....who wouldn't be?! We spent the next few hours lamenting how one always thinks "it'll be different for me" and how nobody tells us how REALLY HARD being a new mom is really. I don't know that I made her feel much better - but I hope that I reassured her that she is doing all she can and that he'll figure out his days and nights soon. I also promised to call more often - and reassured her that she only needed to answer when she felt like it. I want her to know I am there for her - but also give her space to get used to this new life.
All of this got me thinking about just how difficult parenting is - and I haven't even done it! And it got me thinking about all the parents out there who do not have the support - physical or emotional - that most of my friends have. What could have happened if Stacey didn't have people she could call when she was in pain? Or if she didn't have someone she could trust to leave her 3 month old daughter when she needed medical attention? What if Melody didn't have family and friends to come keep her sane during these rough first weeks? What if she didn't have anyone to reassure her that all babies cry a lot and that she is still a good mom?
Talk about perspective - It is easy to see how many babies get neglected or abused when I think about just how blessed my friends and family are... and it makes me even more determined to do more to help those parents who need the support. I've had some requests to provide a Resource Placement - but my work schedule has seriously limited my ability to accept these placements. I feel horrible turning them down and frustrated at my inability to help.
Which is why I'm currently job hunting again - with two "second round" interviews this week! Please say a prayer that one of them works out!
Also, please say a prayer for all the mommies and daddies out there struggling to do the best they can - and think about what you might be able to do to make things a little easier for them too.