Parent / Child visitation is one of the most controversial issues that I deal with in Child Welfare. Today I spent over 45 minutes on the phone with a foster parent, mostly going around in circles about visits. I also had an awkward conversation with a birth mom about whether or not she will get to see her child on the actual holidays. Nothing seems to get people as riled up as the ins and outs of how visits work. I see it in the blog-o-sphere too. Mostly its about how visits work when children are in foster care. But also sometimes about how visits should look after adoption. (Both foster-adoption or domestic open adoption) There are always a range of opinions and questions about visits.
What are visits like?
When should they increase?
What is "normal" behavior after children return from visits?
When should visits be cut back?
Who should decide when visits are scheduled?
Who should participate in visits?
What should the "rules" of visits be?
How do visits change as a case nears reunification?
How do visits change as a case nears termination/adoption?
I want to write a post (or maybe a series of posts) about visitation. What questions do you all have? Foster parents? Social workers? Birth parents? Which of the above do you really want to hear about? Are there other questions or concerns that you've wondered about? Please give me feedback!